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DoodlebearsMy husband Philip had an operation yesterday and I'm so relieved that he is ok. My daughter Sarah and I had left for London at eight thirty as Phil was having his operation at the same time as we left. We were told we could see him as soon as he came back for the op. We waited and waited, five hour later and after pleading many times for the nursing staff to find out what was happening we found out that the operation had been delayed and Phil would be taken to another ward after he left the recovery room. Eventually at 5pm we finally saw Phil, he is doing fine and everything went well. My worry was lifted for a couple of hours then BANG! I phoned my daughter Eve to find out she has the results from her genetics test...she does have the gene for the dreadful breast cancer that has taken so many family members. Eve is just fine about it but I'm not. I am so worried that my head could burst. Eve is arranging to have her breasts removed and reconstruction done. I know in my heart that this is the right thing to do as her chance of breast cancer is so extremely high, but it breaks my heart to think of my beautiful girl being mutilated like this. I know she will be well protected once it is over but I just feel so devastated that she has to go through all of this, she's 29.
Tearful hugs Jane.
dusty attic bearsOh Jane, I am so sorry to hear this terrible news, you must be worried sick.
I am sure she has chosen to do the right thing,and like you said once the operation is over she can continue to lead a happy life with out the worry that breast cancer might rear it's ugly head.
Try not to worry to much, i'll be thinking of you and your daughter.Big big hugs. :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: Love Chloe.xx
WienJane :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
I´ve been thinking about what to tell you, because typing I am sorry just doesn´t seem to be enough.
On one hand I am happy for you and your hubby, that everything went well. 
On the other I´m sad about Eve´s genetic problem BUT: she is lucky to find it out through a test without the cancer actually having broken out. ( If I understood correctly)
Maybe you should not see it as mutilation but as a necessary prevention.
What I wonder is: could the docs not keep it under control by doing mammamgams and ultra sounds every 6 months or so?
If there is anything I can do to make you feel better, just let me know!
Sending lots of hugggs :hug: :hug:
Gaby 
Strange BearsOh Jane
Thiis is horrible news and I f wad my daughter I woul dbe in tears too.
All O can say is, one of my teddy students has just gone through recontruction and if I din't know it I wouldn't have picked it. The scars are not as big or as bad as you think and she can wear deep cleavage revealing tops and dresses. In almost all aspects you would never know.
Please, please don't think of it as mutalation as you will just get too upset......I know I would ....I don;t know what will make it feel better but I just hope when it is over that you feel......like my stident now does.........that it didn't and doesn't meet her or her husbamds worse nightmares.....and it doesn't affect her choice in clothes or what she does or anything.
I hope this helps.
aerBearsWow Jane. What a hard thing to endure. You know though, it is great that she is being proactive and having her breasts removed. What a strong gal. I am 29 too and I don't know if I could be strong enough to have my breasts removed right now. I really admire her.
I know this is hard for you and you are in my thoughts. :hug:
Aeri
Bumpkin BearsDear Jane, my heart goes out to you - I have just sent you a pm.
HUGS :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
Catherine
xx
Jane...for the last few days I have been wondering how things were with you, and the family.
I am so sorry to here this news about Eve......and can only imagine the pain and anguish you are going through at the moment. Our children are just our most precious things, and no matter what age, we as Mothers would do anything to protect them. I think Eve has probably, had all this decided in her mind for a long time - and for sure as you've said it the right thing to do
I'm so glad Philip is OK....and so will Eve.....at least now she will be able to protect herself.....
My thoughts, and prayers, are with you Jane.....and you know, that I am here if you need me.....
Lots of love, and big hugs to you my friend, :hug: :hug:
Yvonne
Oh no Jane! Such awful news. I am praying for you and your family and sending huge hugs as well. :hug: :hug: :hug: It sounds like Eve has made a good decision however.........and most certainly she will look good as new after the reconstruction. What a strong, amazing daughter you have.........I don't know if I could have made the same decision at her age, and maybe still couldn't even though I'm a bit older now. Big, big thumbs-up for Eve!!
Bears by JodiJust be thankful that there is no cancer right now. She will get taken care of before any thing bad happens. God bless you and your daughter and husband.
Terries BearsJane, I am so sorry to hear about your daughter, and the problems ahead for her but at least now she knows and can deal with it before she gets cancer. She sounds like a strong courageous woman.
I am glad that your husbands operation went well :hug: :hug:
OH, Jane! :hug: :hug: Words are not sufficient, but know that big hugs are coming your way. I will pray for speedy recovery for your husband and good health and comfort for your daughter as she faces this. Hugs to your whole family from Colorado!! :hug: :hug:
Posts: 3,540....words really can't encompass all the emotions... sending you a quiet, but long lasting hug :hug: :hug: :hug:
Newcastle, OntarioJane,
I'm so sorry your daughters test results were not what you had hoped, but at least now you know for sure and it can be dealth with, before cancer strikes. Sending warm thoughts and hugs :hug: :hug: !
hugs,
Brenda
Drea's BearsJane I'm sorry, I know you were hoping for better news. :hug:
Your daughter must be a VERY strong woman to have made her decision. I can't even begin to imagine how difficult it must be.
I will be sending good thoughts for both you and your daughter.
Hugs :hug: :hug:
AndreaM
I don't have the right words to express my feelings here, Jane. No parent should have to endure a child's suffering and discomfort and this would qualify in both areas. The very best of news, though, is that you all have the knowledge you needed to prevent an even greater tragedy that might have taken Eve's life, and now you're all protected from that near inevitability, and that has to be seen as a good thing, even in the midst of so much awful change.
I'm not a breast cancer expert by any means but I have a very close friend in similar straits who's already HAD cervical cancer and breast cancer (one side only) and opted for a double-mastectomy/TRAM-flap reconstruction well before she hit 40; she's now contemplating the prophylactic removal of her ovaries since the gene she has (not sure it's the same one as Eve) is linked with increased chance of ovarian cancer, too.
If you'd like, I can put Eve in touch with her and/or any of the support groups and resources she used to help her get through this journey.
PM me if you're interested.
Eve WILL be okay, and I know you know that's the important part, but I'm so, so sorry for the helplessness and heartache I know you must be feelings, that she has to go through all of this. I'd be devastated, too.
Take care, hun.
I can't seem to find words today that would even come close to soothing your worry and heartache. I think of this happening to my own daughter and I just sit here with tears for you and yours.
Sending warm thoughts and loads of prayers, :pray: :pray:
Aleta
P.S. And hugs too!! :hug: I almost forgot the hugs!! :hug:
Flying Fur StudiosOH Jane, I'm sorry. Your poor daughter. She is only 2 years older than me and I can't imagine being brave and strong like she is.
My thoughts are with you :hug:
BruinwerksJane, I am so sorry for your bad news. I spent time in prayer for you and your family today. Although the results were not what you hoped, how proud you must be to know you raised such a strong, confident and empowered young woman who is proactive in her treatment.
Bless you,
Cheryl :hug:
Jane, ergg what life throws at us, they say we never get what we cannot cope with, but boy oh boy at times one has to wonder.
My thoughts are with you and your family.
Lynette
Delartful BearsOh Jane, I am so sorry. This is terrible news. It sounds like your daughter is OK with the fact, and that's a very good thing.
Take good care of yourself :hug:
Danni
Posts: 8,574Darling Jane,
I am so thrilled that Eve lives today-because it means your precious daughter will live! I am so happy your honey is doing so well after surgery. I am so grateful for the blessings God has given you, in these two pieces of wonderful news.
Yes, the trade off is Eve has surgery. But the reconstructive surgery they are doing now isn't the same reconstructive surgery they did 20 years ago. And even 10 years ago this preventative surgery wasn't widly available.
I'll keep praying for you and yours and you concentrate on getting your tribe through all this-you are a strong woman, and all will be well.
love
di
Sunnie BearsJane, I am so sorry to hear this news. BUT that being said, this is WONDERFUL news compared to what it would be if she didn't know and came down with breast cancer. At least she can be proactive in protecting herself. Most people don't know until it is too late. I have already had 2 scares with breast cancer, 2 biopsies and one time was told I had breast cancer, but then it was determined to be pre-cancer. I contemplated the same thing your daugter is going thru and decided if I had one more bad mamogram, that is exactly what I might do. It is scary, but when you concider the implications of doing nothing, it really starts looking much better to do it. I pray for you and your daughter. Shelli is right, there are many support groups for this, she really should get involved in one. You too. It really can help you look at the overall big pictuire.
Hugs
Sonya
Posts: 2,203Oh Jane, I wish I could just give you a hug! Hug those you love and make sure they know. :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
Brisbane:hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: Jane I am so sorry about this news I know that you were hoping and praying for good news here. Thank goodness your daughter lives in an age where they are able to take preventative measures and that she is strong enough to do so. I would be devastated too... :hug: :hug: :hug:
LutonI can't believe it Jane!! I'm stunned for you!!!
I hope that your husband recovers well.
At least your daughter is doing something proactive for herself so that she hopefully will never be diagnosed with cancer.
Big Hugs
Jane :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
