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Newcastle, OntarioHi there,
I finally have the internet set up at our new house - thank god. I was going mad without it. Deborah Burnham, if you read this, I sent you a PM so check it please! I'm still struggling and no where neare settled - my studio hasn't been touched yet, but at least I have more information on my type of spacial problem, so at least I understand why I am having such difficulty. I'll make this quick but I'll post soon.
hugs,
Brenda
Oh yeah Brenda! So glad that you are back on line, we have missed you here.
Best of luck with getting settled into your new home.
Hugs
Carolyn
Bears by EdieHi Brenda,
Nice to see you on here again! Hope you get it all organized soon!
Past Time BearsYea . . . Brenda's back!!!! You have a spatial problem? Can you elaborate - if/when you feel like it? Hope you can get settled soon. Glad to have you back with us!
Jellybelly BearsYay! Welcome back Brenda :hug: :hug:
Posts: 1,277Hi, Brenda! Glad to see ya back! Oh, gosh, don't feel too bad about not being settled in yet. I've been in my new house since May and I'm still not unpacked! I've just moved it all to the basement so I don't have to look at it. Course, it does get kinda forgotten down there! 
Oh, well. Better luck to you!
:clap: :clap: Welcome back Brenda!!!
Hugs,
Krista
Bears by JodiBrenda ,Good to have you back !! Don't work to hard, take your time 
Posts: 1,836Welcome back Brenda! Looking forward to seeing you out here more, missed you!
:hug:
~Chrissi
Back Road BearsGlad you are back, Brenda! I've missed you!
Sorry about your studio problems. Feel free to share when you feel like it!
Huge Hugs,
Daphne
PaA very beary welcome back :hug:
Kathleen
Newcastle, OntarioHi there,
I just had my sister here for three days, trying to help me unravel some of problems with unpacking the house we moved into in August. She has put some structure in place that hopefully I can use to build on.
Sue Ann, you asked about my spacial problems - I'm just beginning to get help in identifying how bad they are. I think I've said before that I have Attention Deficit - heck our whole family is a poster child example for ADD. My type is an over-focusing type. As a child I could never stay awake in a car for more than a few seconds without falling asleep and I always knew I never wanted to drive - even as a toddler. I guess I instinctively knew something was wrong with my visual capabilities. Apparently, my type of spacial problems usually come with other learning problems, but I don't have any other diffifulties but dealing with large spaces. My visual perception is almost 100% - I can reproduce accurately almost anything I see in art - either 2 dimensional to 3 dimensional and back the other way, and maybe that's part of the problem. My perception is so acute, that in any area but a small one I virtually overload visually.
I was always smart at school, and now know my IQ is very high, but I could never deal with school and the classroom and all the people. I just wanted to stay home in my own little space and would have been a perfect candidate for correspondence courses. My house has always been disorganized, but every other time we have moved my parents always helped, along with my oldest sister and other relatives. My parents and sister are now deceased so this time is was just hubby and I. Our daughter works long hours and coming over with a hyper active two year old was no help anyway. Hubby didn't have much time off either but believe me, I was beginning to thnk it was divorce time. He thought I should be unpacked in a month and he'll be lucky if it's done in a year.
Friends would tell me, just do a bit at a time or take it slow etc. which for me is like telling a person with dyslexia to just try harder to read - it's impossible. I finally understand that my brain will just not process that much spacial information - I simply can't unravel it and it's all jumbled. That's why I sleep in the car - I can't absorb all the information coming at me in the car. If I work on a bear in the car and don't look out of the windows, I'm fine, but when I start sight seeing, I'm asleep in minutes. It's also why I do miniatures - the smaller the space and the more detail I can focus on, the better I do.
So, I'm thinking of asking a friend to come and help me unpack the rest and I will pay her. She is actually quite obsessive about cleaning and organizing, and that's exactly what I need. Otherwise, I won't be back making bears until next summer - I don't even know where my bear stuff is. At least with the information I now have, I feel a little less stupid and lazy for not being able to sort this mess out. Take care and bye for now.
hugs,
Brenda
Past Time BearsThank you, Brenda, for elaborating on the spatial condition - I found it quite interesting. My daughter has ADD and could very well have your same problem . . . it was as if you were describing her, except that she does drive. Your friend will have you up and running in no time. :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug: :hug:
Newcastle, OntarioHi SueAnn,
I had just finished sending you a PM, when I noticed your post. That's really interesting about your daughter, because part of my problem has been getting others to understand what I mean, when I'm trying to describe my problem. I didn't even understand it until recently and I wasn't diagnosed with ADD until I was over 50. Everyone in my immediately family has it, although we have different types. My parents were first cousins, so the genes were doubled up (too bad for us LOL) and my daughter and I both married men with ADD.
What's even more interesting, is apparently, if there are two people with ADD are in a room of 500 people, invariably those two ADDers with find each other. It's very common for two ADDers to marry. Soooo, our genes just keep getting better and better (LOL!!!) - our poor wee grandson started showing signs as an infant and he's definitely a handful. At least I feel more qualified to deal with him, now that we are much more informed. Anyway, as Renae said, there are tons of good qualities that come with it, one of them being creativity. We just have to keep learning to deal with the unpleasant ones.
hugs,
Brenda
Back Road BearsRenae is right... we can't be all things! Our challenges are also our gifts! And thank God for friends and family! He gives them to us for so many reasons!!!
Hang in there. It'll be easier now that you understand what's going on and can seek help for the things you need it for!
Thank you for the insight into some of the effects of ADD. Very interesting though I'm sorry you are faced with them.
Huge Bear Hugs,
Daphne
Newcastle, OntarioHi Daphne,
Thanks for the kind words - I can always count on TTers for support. I have really missed being here and I will try and get on line more often! Take care.
Hugs,
Brenda
Newcastle, OntarioHi Renae,
Thanks for the understanding - it does help to know that there are other people here who understand the "chaos" that comes with ADD, but also the wonderful gift of creativity. If I had a choice to get rid of my problems, but also had to give up my desire to create there would be no contest. I couldn't survive without creativity. I know you understand exactly what I'm saying. Take care.
hugs,
Brenda
Renae said: We don't have to be all things to all people.
WHAT? 
Why didn't someone tell me sooner?!!
Darling Brenda, :rose:
My heart and thoughts are with you. I'm just glad you're posting again. I've missed you, my friend.
Warmest and biggest bear hugs,
Aleta
Newcastle, OntarioHi Aleta,
Thank you for the lovely post. I know you also have ADD - are any of your problems similar to mine? Anyway, my friend is sick and can't come to help me 
, so I'm back to square one. I just want to make some bears.
hugs,
Brenda
Newcastle, OntarioHi Renae,
Yes, I am definitely better at making bears than unpacking LOL! I guess the complicating factor is that my hubby is a hyperactive ADDer and wants it all done "yesterday"., although he doesn't want to do it himself and I wouldn't let him touch my studio anyway. Both my husband and I and my daughter and her husband are absolute opposites of each other and it makes me wonder if we are attracted to those types because we are trying to get all the attributes to make a "whole" person, so to speak.
No, I didn't know you could get a coach, although I'm not sure it would be any help. I don't need someone to check in on me, I need a "foreman". I know now that I'm not lazy, I just need someone to give me ideas and tell me where to put things, as I really do not get it, and looking at all this chaos literally makes me feel sick - ie Hubby wanted a new work bench with peg board storage space and I was trying to sell our old dining room set, as we just bought a reclaimed barnboard harvest table. We were fighting about where to store the old table until it sells, when my niece told me to put the table in the basement to use as a work table and buy a pegboard for the wall and kill two birds with one stone. I had the freezer moved and the table up in 15 minutes all by myself, but in a million years I would never have thought of that.
My sister told me after we had gone to Ikea two days in a row, that after watching me manouver through the store, she agreed I shouldn't drive as I bumped into more things etc and zigzaged back and forth across the store and obviously have very poor "space awareness". She had never noticed that before, but she is seven years older and we don't spend a lot of time together, as she lives on the east coast. Since my friend isn't available, I am trying to convince my niece to come. Wish me luck.
hugs,
Brenda
