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chrissibrinkley Dec 21, 2006

Aleta,
I go "crafting crazy", "project happy", etc etc etc....
At the suggestion of my younger sister I started my veggie gardens during a tough time.  I've never liked "gardening".  Everyone knows I'll kill a houseplant, but the idea of having a useful "product" come from the time invested in the veggie garden made me happy. Now I do it each summer and I look forward to it. I like that I can care for the garden and then create from the veggies.
I tend to get involved with more than one project during times of worry and find that the juggling keeps my mind free and clear (sounds totally backwards, but it works for me....there's a therapist out there in cyberspace right now reading this jotting down the "clinical signs of"  :crackup: ) I've known for a long time that I'm a typical artist type with tons of energy that I channel into my creative needs in order to keep balanced.  It's just who I am and I'm more than happy with it...I'd be bored off of my gourd any other way! 

In reading about your son... I'm praying for you and for him.  What is it with men and doctors??  After 10 years my husband finally listens to me about his medical health.  I had to re-program what his father and that Y chromosome had instilled in him.  I can understand your son's trust in the doctor. He went to the doctor and as a guy he got an answer. Question - answer -done for now.  If he were my younger brother (I have a 27 year old sister) in guy speak I'd bluntly tell him that if he was buying a car he'd shop around and seek out further info before taking one salesmans opinion or word...this is his health so take the same care and attention.  Unfortunately for my siblings and hub I'm an over protective Taurus to boot. 

I'm praying for you and your son.  Don't take that other stuff about flukey family history of first born males to heart or give it more thought power than it's had already.
:hug:  :hug:
~Chrissi

bearsbybeesley Dec 21, 2006

Awe Aleta. Thank you for letting us know what is happening. You are doing everything right! God bless and we have you and your family in our hearts!

hugs Louise

Jodi Falk Dec 21, 2006

Aleta... You need to tell your son your concern , and let him know about the family members that have had health problems. Tell him if he won't go for him self to go for you to relieve your mind. There is nothing wrong with being safe. Then it will be over !! But Lift a healing prayer, GOD does answer. He understand your love for your son and your worry. I will lift a prayer for the both of you.

Michelle Helen Dec 21, 2006

Awww Aleta: how sad to hear about your son. As you wrote, he will not get a second opinion but please Aleta, talk to him again. As hard as it may be, he may be in denial or minimizing the issue. You need to be the voice of reason. And, I don't know what his insurance is like but if he can swing it, get him to the Mayo clinic in Minnesota. They are one of the top hospitals in the country. If that is not possible try to get another opinion.

I have to say though, being a cancer survivor myself, I feel better living in this day and age for having cancer is not a death sentence anymore.

Many prayers for you and your son. 

Michelle

Cleathero Creations Dec 21, 2006

Aleta I will hold you in my thoughts.  I wish there were more I could do for you.
Does he have a significant other that can be roped in to help?  Sometimes where mum will fail other 1/2 will prevail.

Cleathero Creations Dec 21, 2006

MAybe you could ask it for a christmas present and just say it would be the best present to get for you?

doodlebears Celebration AmbassadorDec 21, 2006

I agree with Ellen

sometimes you just have to do things to put other people's minds to rest even if it is the most difficult thing that you have ever had to do.

May I suggest that you show your message, and the replies,  to your son, it will show him how desperate you feel. He may be cross that you have written about him but he needs to see just how worried he is making you feel.
I pray that he does the right thing and gets a second opinion Aleta, bless him he must be really scared. My son's health is also worrying us at the moment, he has a lump in his throat. He has seen the doctor and is awaiting an appointment at the hospital. Let's pray that both our sons are ok and all the worry has been for nothing.
As for what I do when I'm stressed, I sew and talk a lot.

Hugs Jane.

Jellybelly Bears Dec 21, 2006

Aleta honey, I noticed you weren't around so much....I can feel your worry you poor thing...Lots of people have given great advice...all I will add is my hugs :hug:  :hug: ...don't forget this is a great place to rant and let go some of those emotions...lots of shoulders to cry on and you will always find true friends to lean on  :hug:  :hug:  :hug:

Aleta - The Silly Bear Dec 21, 2006

I'd like to personally thank each and every one of you who posted and PM'd such uplifting and sincere comments.  I do tend to retreat and create until I can come to terms with the worry at hand.  Like I said before, I've given this over to a higher power.  It's what I know to do to get through the holidays with only the best memories.  I'm sure I'll look back on this in a few months and ask myself,  "What on earth possesed me to paint the familyroom red?"  And when I look at that wreath and some of the other projects?  I'm going to smile when I remember what I can do when put to the test!!

From every ounce of my being.....thank you!!  I am ever so grateful to have such wonderful, loving and thoughtful friends.

Warmest and biggest bear hugs,  :hug:
Aleta