Teddy Talk: Creating, Collecting, Connecting

Thanks everyone for your insights...just being able to vent here is helpful.......Brenda, your tack is just what I have been trying I just hope I can keep it up, it's a bit difficult trying to sound supportive and enthusiastic through the wedding plans but I am trying!!! 

    I really hope so Dilu!! :pray:

I know what you are saying Daphne but for me with 6 kids at home and not a lot of spare cash Ebay is my only alternative...although I do submit to magazines and have a website, shows are few and far between here so for now it's ebay and Bid 4 Bears....

         Thanks Heather...I'm sure there will be plenty of venting!!!

Daphne thanks so much for your answer and perspective on things it helps a lot to hear from someone who is on the outside...

This is the very stuff that is worrying me...Delyse has given up university accounting to persue this course. and I don't believe that either of them have enough life experience to make this decision. I don't understand why scouldn't continue with her accountin even if she is married.  I have tried to have this conversation with Delyse and she understands where I am coming from but unfortunately for me the only answer I can get from her is that she knows he is 'the one' so what's the point of waiting. My concern is that she really hardly knows this boy, they haven't even had an argument yet!!!    Neither of them have 'career' type jobs and the whole things seems to be such a rush...  Her father and I got married for the exact same reasons when I was 19 and divorced 4 years later. Delyse seems to think it is all going to be so easy once they are married....

I hope you don't think I am anti 'religion' as I am not (I was bought up a catholic girl) but I couldn't think of another word. I have no problem with them putting their faith and trust is god if I thought that was what they are doing, but is seems that the sole motivation for getting married is the pressure to have sex....otherwise why get married after having only known each other for 6 months. I just don't believe they have known each other long enough to be genuinly in love....sure the attraction is strong (we all know what that's like!!!) but love is something that in my mind takes longer than 6 months to grow and develop and I don't believe Delyse understands that what she is feeling know is maybe a little love tinged with a great deal of lust. All that said generally she is a fairly sensible girl (so was I) and mybe I should just trust her, but my goodness that is so hard!!!

I'm sorry to dump this on everyone here as it really is nothing to do with you all but I had to get it off my chest...

Background first for those of you who don't know. I have a daughter from my first marriage who has lived with her father since we separated when she was about 3...anyway I have seen plenty of her but unfortunately not had much say in the way she was bought up. therefore I have not a lot of control in what she does.    Not that anyone does at her age anyway.

Well she is getting married....and I sooo don't want it to happen. She is only 19 and the fiance is only 21 (to be fair he seems ok although I have only met him twice). My sole objections to the marriage thing are based on their ages and the fact that he is her first serious boyfriend, also they have only been going out together for about 6 months. Now I know that some people get married at 19 and live happily ever after but in this case I really can't see it happening, and let's face it, in most cases it doesn't happen... perhaps I have a subconscious objection because he reminds me of her father or something.(which he does). I have really tried to be open minded about this but every fibre of my being is screaming that it will be a mistake...

I have encouraged them to........

1. Live together (they won't as they are both religious) I don't have any objection to the religious part except that is seems to be making them rush into the marriage thing.

2. Have a long engagement (they have decided on May    probably seems an eternity when you're 19.

3. Travel around Europe together before they get married, they are going on their honeymoon. (Again religion prevents this) Although I don't see why, they don't have to have sex!!

Help, I'm trying to be supportive here as I know nothing I say is going to change her mind but I can foresee an absolute disaster. I would probably be happier if they had been going out longer etc. But I don't know if I can take one more phone call about wedding plans without exploding!!!

Now I am logical enough to know that there is nothing I can do without alienating Delyse and causing an enormous argument, but I do feel better having got this off my chest!!! 

Oh dear Jennifer I really feel for you, this happened to me two weeks ago and it is very frustrating especially dealing with live chat whose standard answer seems to be....wait six hours then it will show up!!!

Check out the Bid 4 Bears thing, it could be great if we can get it going as a group!!!

Wow there are some lovely creations here.

I do not have very many artists or crafters around me either...my mum when she was alive was a wonderful knotter and sewer though and my children are all turning out to be very creative.

My son (15) paints tiny models and sells some of them....this one is 1 1/2 inches high (iI don't know how he see's them to paint!!)

Bobbie I don't know how everyone else does it but I just edit my post and then add another image....If there is a quicker way I would also love to know it!!

Sarah ...do you have a premier account or just a normal account...I think you are charged more if someone pays you when you don't have a premier account??? Can't be sure though 

:hug:  :hug:  :hug:  :hug:  I'm so sorry to hear this Brenda.....

When I was really small I loved Peter Rabbit.....then graduated to Famous Five, Secret Seven and The Silver Brumby 

Yes mine are stuffed very firmly as well...I always worry that they will 'droop' over a period of time if I don't stuff them firmly enough...

Well done Jenny!!!!  :dance:  :dance:  :dance:  :dance:

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I had to laugh at this, that's what I do...in fact I leave everything uncut until I need it!! (comes from losing a few pieces  ) and I always sew and completely finish the head before I start anything else!! 

I hope you will forgive me for not commenting on every bear here this morning, it's the first day back at school and I am flat out but I wanted to say how wonderful all the bears I have been seeing here are and how talented the ladies (and men ) here on TT are.

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Danni I will eventually sell him, but I'm thinking of entering him in a competition firts...but I'm not sure 

That is just amazing....

Thanks Jane   

I posted Billy in the challenge area but I though I'd put him here as well...He is 6 1/2 inches tall and he is my first try at maing a floppy bear...definitely different than what I am used too....

Yes my head arms and legs are all stuffed firmly but slightly less firmly than usual....I must admit Gem I was a bit hesitant about posting him as I think he is very similar to yours!!!  :o....I'm thinking he might need a few more glass beads.....

Well I have finished my 'floppy bear' His name is Billy....It seems that Gemma and I used very similar mohair...I swear, he was cut out and his head finished before Gemma posted her little boy!!!!!     .I can't get used to the 'unstuffed' feel though and I keep being tempted to open the poor little bloke up and re-stuff him!! 

         Ahhh Dilu you beat me to it...I was just about to do this...Great minds think alike!!! 

I think a boy too!! Lovely bear by the way!!!